So there is a correlation between the time of day that people eat and their weight, such that eating at night is correlated with weight gain and fatter people tend to eat more at night. [example source] But I want to be clear: That doesn’t mean that eating later at night causes weight gain all by itself.
One of the most common forms of disordered eating among fat people is the habit of restricting throughout the day – skipping breakfast, eating a small lunch etc – and then eating most of our daily energy needs in the evening.
There are many reasons for this disordered pattern. Shame about eating in front of others. Disordered “rules” about when it is okay to eat and when it is not. Evening hunger over-rides restrictive tendencies after a day of starvation. But the important thing to note is that such an eating pattern can cause the metabolism to slow as it tries to compensate for the lack of nourishment for extended periods during the day.
They key here is that in this scenario, it is the daytime restriction that causes the metabolism to slow and weight gain to occur, NOT the act of eating at night.
So if you are eating at 2 am after starving yourself for most of the day, then you may find that you gain weight. But if you are eating regularly and normally and getting adequate nutrition, and just happen to find that you are also hungry at 2am, then I doubt there would be any association between eating late at night and weight gain.
Can you get yourself back to a healthy metabolic rate if you stop disordered eating?
Yes, but it can take time.
When people consume less energy than they require to meet their energy needs, their metabolism slows by about 15% in the shorter term, but if this behavior goes on for a long time, the metabolism can slow by as much as 30%. [sources]
When people stop restricting and begin eating adequately again, they may gain weight because the metabolism is still suppressed. But if you can persist through this phase without freaking out too much about your changing body, then your metabolism will begin to rise again – and remember, this is important not only because it means you “can eat more” (as the diet industry frames it), but it is important because it means your body will be operating optimally again, repairing damage and processing waste as intended. An optimally functioning metabolism may also cause you to feel more energetic and it may lessen symptoms of depression or anxiety. You may also find that your digestion is faster and you no longer suffer from constipation or intermittent diarrhea. The evidence for this type of metabolic rebound comes mostly from research concerning ED recovery [e.g., source].
After an extended period of normal eating without restriction, some people may find that their weight tapers back down to their natural set point, whereas others may find that their weight stabilizes at a new, higher, set point. But no matter what your weight does, your long term health and well-being will always benefit from eating regularly and adequately throughout the day.
More information that is relevant to set point theory.
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i just really hate when deliberate cruelty is interpreted as “life is unfair”
that is not life being unfair; that is a person being unfair. that is a person being malicious. no one is under obligation to treat people like shit just to prove that life is unfair!!! if it’s unfair, then try to make it fair! Help people! Be kind! Try to make things better! don’t just sneer and say “that’s just how life is”!
do not make life worse for people and excuse your actions by saying they would have been treated badly anyway!
The “life is unfair” excuse to me feels like a grown-up version of the “but everyone is doing it” excuse that we’re told doesn’t excuse our behavior as children.
I’ve given this a lot of thought since cohen answered it.
The problem we run into is stuff like, are alliances and factions allowed? Whats the battlefield like? What are the win conditions? Last Person standing? 4 Stock? Crowd favorite?
Cohen has a masters which easily makes him the smartest, and therefore the least trustworthy. He also has a good eye for analyzing people. He’s tall and has good reach. He listens to weird music which has made his movements unpredictable and wild. His downfall is that he overthinks things.
Adrienne runs three times a week and does a lot of weight training so her physical stats are the most well rounded. I think she’d be the most likely to go on a “hike” which is absolutely terrifying. She’s shorter and has a lower center of gravity which is good for defense. Her downfall is that she is incredibly kind and trusting so susceptible to skullduggery.
Rah’s cosplays and mastery of backgrounds makes them a master of trickery, stealth and disguise. Rah tends to blend in, and is sometimes overlooked but don’t be fooled. Thats all part of the plan. Rah knows a lot about birds so its possible they’ve mastered the power of flight. Weakness: one on one fights.
To many, Toby is an enigma, but I have known him a long time. He is small, wily and quick and will strike when least expected. I have personally seen him do parkour. He is dexterous, but his attacks don’t do much damage. Timing will be key. Weakness: Extremely shy.
Angela is a machine. I don’t think I’ve ever seen her take a break which means her stamina is off the charts. Capable of dealing some incredible burns with zero regard for her own safety. (she once renamed an important work document just to dunk on me) She also knows everything that goes on creatively at WP, which has possible psionic implications. Incredibly powerful. No known weaknesses.
Gina is a solver of practical problems. She is a go-getter. You give her something to do and she just does it. Thats incredible. You can’t trust someone like that in a fight. You never know what they’re going to do. Complete wildcard. Approach with caution.
What Shelby lacks in raw power, she makes up for in experience. She has been on the scene as long as any of us can remember. Hardened by the unending discourse, and years of me calling her “Shill-by Crapp,” her CON stat is crazy high. She will just outlast you, somehow. Bottom line. Weakness: happily married and therefore vulnerable to emotional blackmail.
Phil is another all-rounder. He can do almost any job you give him, and will do it well. An excellent edition to any team or alliance. He only has one weakness and thats that i can see all his thirsty favs on twitter. YIKES buddy.
Andrew needs no introduction, but he does need a beatdown. I’d say his weakness is his extremely punchable physique. His strengths are that he is my boss and I don’t know if I can beat up my boss. I mean, I know I can but should I? Truly a formidable foe. I think I’ve seen him throw away a full cup of coffee. You don’t want to fight someone who cares so little about what others think of him.
I don’t know the battle prowess of the other members of the team, but these are the ones I’d look out for.
I want to talk about some of the people who are not otherkin and how they’ve tried to shape us, and how some of them have done such a good job at it.
This is not just anti otherkin who do this, because keep in mind to be anti is to work against a thing. Sometimes it is ordinary people with no real bone to pick. Sometimes it is people who want to be and pretend to be otherkin.
So often I try to talk to these people who do these things, and they are rarely interested in listening. The ones who do listen and then move on are not who this post is about, and if you are not otherkin but are the sort of person who is open to listening and learning, please know I am not talking about you.
I am talking about the rest and for ease I will just say ‘non-otherkin’.
Please also know that with the exception of anti otherkin I don’t think most people are doing this on purpose/ realize what they are saying.
For a lot of non-otherkin, always they want to be the ones who get to define us, and we don’t say often enough how self entitled and dismissive them doing so is.
I’m rather fed up with that.
They tell us what we are. They try to change the definitions we have made. They tell us we are attention seekers. They tell us we have disorders that we do not have. They tell us we are escapists. They tell us we are liars. They tell us we choose to have these identities and by extension that they know us better than we know ourselves.
They tell us what we want. They tell us we want attention. They tell us we want to be victimized. We tell them no we don’t want that, we want to be left alone, but they do not listen to us.
They tell us what we need. They tell us we need psychiatric help. They tell us we need to grow up. They tell us we need to stop roleplaying. They tell us we need to shut up.
They tell us what words we can use, and what we are allowed to talk about, and what we are allowed to feel. They try to be the ones to define what is possible, what is real, and what isn’t.
If we speak up, if we are fed up, if we are finished with being humiliated and dragged through the mud they try to turn our anger around like we are the ones making the problem.
We are the ones being humiliated and hurt by these people, but often I see they try to make it seem like we are over reacting. Sometimes they have the fucking gall to call us the bullies when we get angry at them for their actions.
They try to misdirect who holds responsibility for their actions and it uncomfortably reminds me of the times in life I have been gaslighted.
Sometimes people will say that all of them have a right to their opinion, and that we should listen to them as if we are in an echo chamber if we don’t listen. Yes, they have a right to their opinion, but they are outside of our experience and by no means of real importance in the discussions about our experiences.
I come from the ‘generation’ that lived on forums and on small message groups. For years we have spoken with one another without outside harassment or criticism born out of ignorance.
There are all these things that are pushed on us now about the kind of people we are, and all these things non-otherkin (in particular anti-otherkin) put forward because the behave like the authority, that never used to exist for us.
Without them we weren’t an echo chamber by any means. Most of you have probably heard from the older crowd that in the past we put emphasis on introspection and thoughtful interactions to a fault. On a big forum there was little an outsider could teach us because we’d already discussed everything imaginable to death. ‘Real’ otherkind, the people who know what otherkinity is and are not embracing willful ignorance are often some of the most thoughtful, open minded, well expressed people you could ever meet.
Non-otherkin have done such a good fucking job at defining us that sometimes I see people new to the otherkind communities believe what non-otherkin have told them and berate each other over. Things that we have done for years, that suddenly we are told is wrong. Being told we cannot talk about dysphoria came from non-otherkin first, but now I see it said in my own community. Being told we cannot talk about phantom limbs came from non-otherkin first.
The list goes on and on. A decade ago that list didn’t exist! We were able to have thoughtful conversations without the overbearing attention of outsiders trying to control how we interact and think.
The worst of these fucking people happily spread misinformation and lies, they degrade us without trouble, they tell us all these things we should do and should need, and they make compilations of writing taken from our personal blogs with the intent to humiliate rather than educate…
Then they tell us they are doing this to help us.
Those assholes are lying. Let them know you know it.
These people (anti otherkin) do not care about us but they try to cast doubt on our judgement. They get a kick out of pissing on others and they try to justify that doing so does not make them trash because we are still socially acceptable to abuse.
It’s not abuse if they just want to help us, right? They really don’t want to help. They just don’t want us to tell them to shut the fuck up, sit down, and swallow the reality that they are assholes going after innocent people. What they really don’t want is for non-otherkin to call them out.
And sometimes they hide behind having compassion for one sort of person. “Look, look!” they shriek, “I support these things, so I’m compassionate as fuck!”
You can have compassion for one thing and then none for another. If a person drags otherkind through the mud, shames them, humiliates them, insists they know us better than we know ourselves, but then they also support other things, don’t let them hide behind those other things!
Those other things do not change the reality that they’ve behaved like abusive assholes with zero self awareness and no desire to take responsibility.
Don’t let them convince you and gaslight you into thinking they are good people in all the facets of their life and you should shut up and listen because any negative reaction you have is an over reaction or a thin skin or feeding the trolls. There is only so much poison any person can be expected to take; it is finite. Don’t let others make you think that you fucking deserve to be humiliated and hurt.
And for the love of fucking god, please understand that just because you shared your writing on a public site, people aren’t entitled to use that to behave like abusive assholes and bullies and humiliate you with it. People who do this are assholes.
A compassionate person does not humiliate others on purpose.
A
compassionate
person does not spread misinformation willingly.
A
compassionate
person does not speak over the voices of a community they are not part of and that they do not understand.
A
compassionate
person listens. A
compassionate
person approaches things with kindness, patience, and respect.
That is what compassion looks like.
Otherkinity, this nonhuman experience, comes from our voices, in our hands, in our own way, and I say this all just so other people who might not have words for this frustration can have a voice.
Mostly this is about anti otherkin, but other non-otherkin can and have done the same things without the same vitriol towards it.
We are not the selfish and entitled people in this situation, when it is people outside the experience on nonhumanity coming in to try to teach us about ourselves.
Non-otherkin, and especially anti-otherkin, are not the ones who define us, but it would be nice if once in a while the non-otherkin who realized this slapped their shitty peers in the face.
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