Instead of telling yourself, “I should get up,” or “I should do this,”
Ask yourself, “When will I get up?” or “When will I be ready to do this?”
Instead of trying to order yourself to feel the signal to do something, which your brain is manifestly bad at, listen to yourself with compassionate curiosity and be ready to receive the signal to move when it comes.
My therapist calls thinking “I should do this or that/I shouldn’t have done that” constantly, “shoulding all over yourself”, and that it’s waaayy healthier to ask yourself when you’ll be ready, as well as recognizing that you’re placing judgement on yourself, and that self-judgement accomplishes absolutely nothing.
Shoulding all over yourself means you’re stuck thinking about the past, while asking yourself when you’ll be ready is living in the moment, and gearing for your next step. Very good advice from OP!
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