Tag: self
your gender is not an inconvenience
your pronouns are not an inconvenience
you are not an inconvenience
(via Saturday Morning Cartoons: Baopu #15) by Yao Xiao
words to remember
This is so good. I try to be mindful of things like this but it can be hard if you feel self-conscious about your feelings in the first place!
Friendly reminder
“In a healthy relationship, your partner hears you out if you’re upset, and their goal is to avoid upsetting you in the future, not to debate whether you should have been upset in the first place.”
Things nobody told you (but should’ve told you) about anxiety
- You’re gonna get seriously tired of yourself and how your mind sometimes works. There may even be points where you roll your eyes at yourself and mutter “really, this again?”
- It’s gonna be difficult to explain to people who don’t have it. You can’t just stop worrying, if you could you’d have done it a long time ago.
- It can take a long-ass time before you find the right kind of help, whether that’s a therapist or medication or something different.
- Screaming works.
- You can get irrational, crazy thoughts like “hey why shouldn’t I just jump outta the window right now”. This is not you. This is your anxiety.
- You may develop tics.
- You can feel physically sick enough to stay in bed. You can throw up, pass out, even develop a fever (!!!) from anxiety. This usually happens around panic attacks.
- Oh yeah, you can get those as well.
- And most importantly, if you haven’t found the right kind of help yet, please keep looking. There’s someone or something out there that can help you deal with all of this.
hey so you know that vicious cycle of mental health making you unproductive which makes your mental health worse? don’t worry friend I am here with something that can help
just get one thing done. break the cycle. it doesn’t have to be some big task. in fact it’s better if it isn’t. decide on something that takes five minutes or less. keep it tiny and manageable – the key is to feel like you’ve accomplished something, so when your brain is all, you can’t even do a single thing all day except lay in bed being useless, you can be like, oh but I did do something, brain, suck on that. it might not seem like much at the time but it helps a lot to have something tangible you can point to
do you have dirty dishes in your bedroom? get rid of ‘em. you don’t have to wash them, just put them in the sink with soapy water. done. easy.
do you have a pile of empty water bottles sitting there? good for you staying hydrated. but you don’t need a mountain of plastic reminders. throw a few in the trash or in recycling. don’t worry about chasing down every single one, just pick a number. get rid of 5 or 10. easy, manageable even if you feel terrible. done.
do you need to do something early tomorrow? get something ready now. just one thing. lay out an outfit. fill the coffee maker so you can just press a button tomorrow. pack your backpack or purse. bonus benefit, future you will have an extra few minutes to breathe in the morning.
do you have a pet? spend 5 minutes with your pet. cuddle them. play tug of war. make baby noises at them. your pet loves you. I bet they miss you when you’re sad. you’ll both feel better.
has it been 3 weeks since you did laundry? pick your clothes up off the floor and put them in a laundry basket. don’t actually wash them or even take the basket anywhere. just collect the clothes for later so they aren’t spread all over. it’ll make actually doing them that much easier when you have more energy
did you manage to wash your clothes but not put them away? fold something. fold another thing. and one more. put them away. three things. you got this one.
did you do your one thing? good. I’m proud of you. even if it didn’t make you feel better, guess what? you did a thing. you got something done, you can be done now. you can go back to bed if you want.
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