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crpl-pnk:

crpl-pnk:

i know that one of the big reasons my posts about disability on here get so many notes is because i’m viewed as more “moderate” & “reasonable” in the ableism i point out. i don’t call out every microagression. i’m not one of those “laughable” antiableists that “calls everything ableism”

that kind of… disgusts me honestly

trust me i would love to talk about how jokes about donald trump needing adult diapers must affect incontinent people who already carry more shame & self hatred because of it than you can imagine, who feel like they’ve lost all dignity, who ONLY ever see their issues talked about as a knee slapping hilarious couldn’t possibly be harmful joke. i’d love to point out that it’s no different than a hilarious joke about him needing a wheelchair & how disability jokes don’t suddenly stop being offensive when they involve poop or don’t immediately call to mind disability if you’re not disabled

i’d love to get into how the most basic & common “morally neutral” insults are antiquated & crass words for mental illness & intellectual disability

how jokes about how people who do x “are weak & won’t survive” or how “stupid people shouldn’t breed” are literally so fucking blatantly rooted in eugenics that it’s impossible to separate them

how “i clearly wasn’t thinking about disabled people when i made this joke that harms disabled people, you’re so extra” isn’t a defense, it’s a fucking indictment

but i really don’t want to open myself, an often house or even bedbound disabled person, up to a resounding chorus of “go outside” because it makes me want to fucking cry that i can’t go outside as much as a “normal person”

the fact of the matter is that the reason pointing out the ableism in “harmless comments” is seen as so silly is that ableism runs so deep in our culture that it’s completely built into the foundation of how we talk & joke. it’s in our basic language, it’s in everything. disability is so tied to inferiority that it’s hard to find any expression of inferiority that can’t be traced back to disability. ableism is so deep rooted that it’s easily seen as outright RIDICULOUS to point out every instance because you would have to think about disability constantly, with every word you choose, to never espouse ableist shit

the solution to that is not to berate the people who god help them somehow find the energy to examine & challenge all of that. it’s not to deny that the ableism is there

please consider the fact that pointing out how deep the roots of ableism go in the way we talk is such a fucking target to paint on yourself on here that even with my majority disabled follower base & thick skin from constant exposure to putrid hatemail for my radical disability activism, i’m terrified to post this & already thinking about deleting it

ive never shared this before but fuck it after making that post i feel like i have to

one of my earliest memories as a child is being in about kindergarten & thinking that it seemed kind of really wrong to call mean people “stupid” because (paraphrasing bc cmon i didnt have the words back then) a lack of conventional intelligence can’t really be helped & doesn’t make someone a bad person & it just. didn’t sit right with me. it really didnt. & immediately trying to quash that thought because all the Good People i knew used that word. everyone used that word. it was universal. so i must have been wrong

that memory has nagged at me my entire life & as i get older & more established in the disabled community i find myself wondering more & more if ignoring it is just running away from my conscience