lesbwian:

“Closeted people don’t face homophobia/transphobia” like take a wild fucking guess why they’re in closet in the first place buddy

rogueoftimeywimeystuff:

The belief that someone might be faking it means they don’t deserve help is one of the greatest social ills put upon us as a society.

Let me explain:

With every charity there will be at least 5% of people (more or less depending) that look like they don’t deserve to benefit from the charity due to their clothes, phone, ability to walk, looking cis or het, looking white or any outwards sign of privilege that they might seem to show.

In actuality, about 0.01% of these people either do not qualify for the charity in question or actually have the privilege that they look like they have.

An example:

You are at a food bank. Mrs. White come up in a shiny Escalade with 4 kids all piled in the back. She comes in to get food for her, her husband, and her 4 kids. Immediately after they leave, you hear one of the other volunteers criticizing the fact that these “obviously well off individuals” are coming in for food.

In reality: Mrs. White’s husband was in a car accident that cost him his ability to walk for long periods of time, the car, and his ability to work. The insurance company paid for the escalade (a dream car of the husband’s) and disability allows them to keep the house, but Mrs. White is barely able to work part time to take care of her husband and the kids. They rely on the donations at the food bank to get by.

Another example:

You see a pair of people walking in the pride parade that look cis and het and are being affectionate at Pride. You hear someone snarl about invaders.

In reality: They are both trans or Bi and this is their first Pride being out.

Another example:

A person on the internet talks about their experience with Autism and how it means they have a hard time working. They’re self-diagnosed.They’ve gotten jeering comments about how they’re faking it and making it hard for real Auties.

In Reality: They’re autistic but can’t afford a professional diagnosis because they have a hard time working and they showed atypical traits as a kid.

I could go on and on.

I’ve heard it all. From just about anyone. But mostly? Mostly I hear it from people who think that if you don’t fit the stereotype you don’t deserve help. That you must be in the very lowest place you can be before you get help. But that’s simply not how it should be.

We should reach kids before they’re on the verge of death, someone before they’re on the street, a person before they’re grasping at the end of their rope. And if we were able to do this, maybe more people would feel comfortable asking before they had no other option than to beg for the scraps that society can leave them.

Society’s greatest illness isn’t those who fake need, but those who think that that tiny bit of people who don’t need the help asking for it is worth forsaking everyone else who does.

marina-pepsi:

lieutenant-sapphic:

helenrasing:

lieutenant-sapphic:

unironically liking “never gonna give you up” makes you immortal, invulnerable, and unstoppable. in this essay i will

Op where’s the essay

right here!

I clicked it without thinking about it perish op

sheabutterbitch:

evil-faery:

sheabutterbitch:

A long time ago I took a course on the sociology of marriage and my professor said “With compromise, you both lose. As a couple, you must collaborate on the best possible outcome.” Ever since, I never prioritize compromise in a relationship, only collaboration.

this seems like a great concept and all but. what does it actually mean?

Compromise is typically thought of as a 50/50 split amongst partner’s needs. They’re both left partially unsatisfied, but this dissatisfaction is deemed acceptable because it is ‘equal.’ However, with additional effort, many problems may be solved through collaboration; keywords: additional effort.

In collaborating, one may try to make the conflict more complex in order to expand the possible positive outcomes. This requires trust in both parties, empathy, and consideration for one another’s needs.

The objective should shift from getting what you want and ‘keeping things quiet’ to making sure your partner feels heard and considered (as they should do with you). Essentially, you must trust that your partner has your happiness in mind, and you must have theirs, instead of fighting for your own best interest.

For further explanation, Google “compromise vs collaboration.”

pondwitch:

pondwitch:

worlds tallest vampire

count everest

lamarisabidilla:

If you’ve every tried to learn a language, you’ve probably had that moment where you realize that what you’ve learned in class doesn’t really translate to how natives use the language in day-to-day life. The vocabulary is different, the accents are hard to understand, and you struggle to come up with responses on the fly. These tips will help prepare you for real life conversations, and will make learning more fun along the way!!

1: Interact with one form of media in your target language each day

I can’t stress this enough. This can be anything from listening to a song you like, watching a movie, listening to a podcast, listening to the radio, check out Spotify for podcasts and playlists…. the options are endless, and it will expose you to the real use of the language and will help you perfect your accent!

2: Use children’s media

If you can find Sesame Street or in your target language, you’re off to a great start. Check out your local library and see if they offer children’s books in the language, or try to find an alphabet song on youtube. This is a simple way to hear vocabulary you’ve probably already learned, get exposure to the culture where the language is spoken, and learn vocabulary you won’t get in class.

3: Find a singer/band that you like, and learn the lyrics to their songs

Sometimes language is used differently in songs than it is in conversation, and that’s OK! Find something you like the sound of, print out the lyrics and translate what you don’t know. Learn the song well enough to sing along to.  This helps you with vocabulary and learning the culture, and is a great way to open discover new music.

4: Learn dirty words

You need to know when you’re being insulted, right? Slang and dirty words can vary region to region, but learning them for the area you’re most interested in is a great way to make sure you’re not left stranded when speaking with natives. 

5: Don’t neglect regions, find differences in accents

Being able to pinpoint where someone comes from while speaking your target language can be difficult, but it’s a great way to learn differences in culture and ways of speaking. It gives you practice understanding what is being said no matter who says it, and it lets you pick which accent you most want to imitate while learning.

Keep reading

pervocracy:

They dined at the castle that night, feasting upon fresh-caught river trout, cooked to crackly perfection over open flames, and served with lemon from the gardens.  There was roasted boar as well, from a mighty beast the hunters had slain, the huge chops basted in their own glistening fat.  They drank sweet summerwine, staining their lips red, and making their songs more merry as the night drew on.  And then the servants brought out platters of berries and cream and cakes, each one sweeter and more succulent than the last.

Also someone murdered the king or whatever.

For breakfast they had platters piled high with crisp bacon…

eldritchplush:

timaeus-gnostic:

timaeus-gnostic:

timaeus-gnostic:

gt jade hc: she inherited the “love of jade” trait everyone who somehow got merged with bec got and now she is very loyal to herself

jade: begins to fall after tripping

bec instincts: OH NO HELP JADE

jade: wraps arms around self and teleports safely on a couch

jade: is near something loud

bec instincts: oh NO that thing is THREATENING JADE. BARK. BARK BARK BARK! SCARE IT AWAY

jade: tiny woof

jade: sees something on the ground

bec instincts: JADE would LOVE THIS so much i will BRING it to her 

jade: puts it in her mouth without thinking

27teacups:

arkhams:

cisphobias:

if you identify as cis but haven’t actually taken time to sit down and examine and analyze your gender identity, it’s probably time to do that otherwise you’ve just given in to society forcing a significant part of your identity upon you.

if someones comfortable with their gender identity to the point that its not even on their mind then theres no need for them to analyse it

as someone who basically identifies as cis i think it’s very much important to examine your gender identity. it might lead to small things: e.g. after i did that i stopped shaving because i realized that i wasn’t doing it for myself. further, i’ve stopped seeing my own face as a gendered thing and this makes it easier for me to be respectful of the identities of others, and easier to be happy with the meatsack i live in. i think that it’s very important for cis people to consider what aspects of gendered existence we hold sacred. peeing in a segregated space? if so, why? i mean this is exactly the kind of question trans communities have been trying to get us to deal with forever and i think that answering it on a cultural level will come with exactly the type of introspection that OP is asking for. 

some of the best advice i’ve got in college so far is “make strange what is comfortable” and hey, after you take it apart, you can put it right back together again if that’s what makes you happy but it’s still important to evaluate why you perform your gender the way you do and what rituals are essential to that? why are they essential? are they worth perpetuating? the answer might not always be yes EVEN for people comfortable with the label of their gender assigned at birth